Paul McVeigh




Jan 15


How confident are you?

Do you have high expectations of yourself? Or are you always giving yourself a hard time, forever thinking ‘can’t’, ‘won’t’ and ‘don’t’ rather than ‘can’, ‘will’ and ‘do’.

It took Yoda from Star Wars to remind us of what our attitude to life should be;

“Do or do not. There is no try.”


Self confidence comes with self belief. If you truly think you can accomplish something then you almost certainly will. Successful sportspeople will visualise the end result of whatever challenge or task they are about to take on, they won’t worry about the perceived difficulties involved, they’ll focus on the successful end result instead.

And if you believe you can succeed, then you will. And it doesn’t matter who you are.

Belief doesn’t discriminate.


I don’t think I ever met someone so full of self belief and so full of confidence in what he wanted in life than Craig Bellamy.

He was only 17 when I first came across him. Overflowing with confidence. When we were training, he’d be on at you in an instant if he thought you’d done something below the high standards expected – both by him and, as far as he was concerned, of yourself.

He’d hammer you. It didn’t matter if you were in your 30’s and were an international who’d been in the game for years and years.

Bellars didn’t discriminate either!

It didn’t matter what he was doing, he always saw himself as the best. The best shot, the best pass, the greatest goal, the best player on the pitch.

Even if he had an absolute stinker, he still came off the pitch thinking he was the best player.

But he didn’t just think it. He knew it.


But you don’t have to be a precocious youngster to think like he did. You can think like it for yourself. Any time, any day, anywhere.

Because the only person who can control how you think and how you respond to life on a day to day basis is you.

No-one else does and nothing else can.  It’s down to you.


Remember, it’s not what you are that hold’s you back in life. It’s what you believe about your life that holds you back. And if you think you can’t or won’t – well, either way, you’re probably going to prove yourself right in the end.

So how about starting to think that you can?

How about thinking of something you can think of that will make an improvement to your own life?

Talk about it to yourself. Make it real. What you repeatedly say to yourself is what you can habitually create – so the more you do it, the more likely you are to see change.


How about writing down a positively constructed statement about yourself. Then spend two minutes every morning reading it – and then another two minutes before you go to sleep at the end of the day.

Say it,  believe it, live it.

And let me know how you get on.



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